Robert Boulle Unclaimed

I am a Clinical Psychologist in Private Practice in the Southern suburbs of Cape Town. My main speciality is Relational Therapy, working specifically in the contexts of Marital Therapy and Group Therapy. Most of our anguish and inner pain is related to the relationships in our lives. We are all striving to have meaningful relationships, desiring to be in a loving relational space with another. Therapy can help us to gain insight and understanding into those aspects of ourselves that might be obstructing the possibility of establishing and maintaining fulfilling relationships. Tel: 021 715 6370 (consulting rooms) 082 925 7938 (mobile)

A dialectic can be likened to an internal debate that we have with ourselves. DBT urges us to be more aware of this inner debate, and accept the reality of the inner conflicts that emerge between competing needs and emotions. Much of life involves compromises between competing inner demands and wants. A dialectical domain then is an area of life where you have to struggle to negotiate two different, frequently competing sets of needs and wants. Dialectical problem solving assumes that you have to compromise. You have to give up something in order to get something else. You have to move from an extreme end of a continuum toward a different position. Dialectics are found around emotions, thoughts, values, needs and how these impact on our behaviour in relationships.